Strictly Sex or Undercover Lovers?

How do you know if you're emotionally able to have a F.B. or a sex buddy?

Me and my girls are sitting here discussing...

Is it safe to have a sex buddy? How many people are TRULY capable of using someone for sex? Where do you draw the line?

A lot of times, when two people are casually having sex, SOMEONE gets emotionally involved. Most times, it's expected to be the girl. But as of late, Oh, How The Tables Have Turned.

Let me tell a little story.

A girl I knew, lets call her Sharon, was the serious relationship type. When she dated, she dated for years at a time. But heartbreak soon led up to being fed up. The men in her life- cousins, best friends, and acqaintances- have all proven to be no good in one way or the other. They play games, toy with girls' emotions, and don't really want anything serious nowadays. So...Sharon began to think...

"Okay, two can play this game. If you can't beat 'em, join 'em. Time to start dating like a n*gga"

And so it began...

Upon meeting a man, she'd let them know: "I'm just having fun, I don't really want anything serious, so let's just have fun and play it cool."

And it seemed to work out just fine.

Until.

Sharon met a guy through her friend. Her and (let's call him Chris) began to have casual sex, having already stated what they wanted to get out of this "ordeal".

"I'm not really looking for a relationship, I'm trying to have fun."

But after a few nightcaps, things began to change.

Feelings began to evolve.

What was once meaningless sex became an attempt at passion. bonding. lovemaking.

Chris began holding her hands during sex, cuddling afterwards, the whole nine, and Sharon knew it had gone too far. She thought, "Have the tables turned? Did I, the girl who was once a sucker for love, join the 'players club'? Here we are having casual sex, and yet I'm still chillin. I don't really even want anything more from him. I'm content with a few nightcaps here and there. HE'S the one going in depth with all of the emotional hooplah."

As hard as Chris tried to disguise his feelings, it was apparent. His actions as well as attitudes began changing. And salty wasn't the word. He was far more than bitter. He had legit caught feelings for Sharon.

Indeed.

The tables had turned.

So my question is:

Is it REALLY possible to have sex without someone catching feelings? Even if they aren't vocal about their feelings, is it likely that someone has indeed become emotionally attached?

At what point do you draw the line when it comes to "F.B.s" ? No kissing? No holding hands? Hell, for some, it's "No Missionary...that's too intimate." To ensure that no one has or will catch feelings and renege on their agreement to keep it "strictly sex", what must be done?

Can it really be STRICTLY SEX?

Or will one or both of the parties eventually become an UNDERCOVER LOVER?

Oh, the mystery that is this world of lovers and friends.